On top of being a mom and granny, I'm a wife to the love of my love, Charles. Through thick and thin, smiles and quarrels we've been married for 25 years. Sometimes it seems like LOONNNGGGG years, but you know what, I'm sure looking forward to 25 more with him!
Our children started out even before we were married. Uh Oh, but no, not uh oh, I'm just not that type of gal, but we did already have 2 boys, his oldest. Charles Matthew and Cody Wayne. Then we started on our own boys. Joshua Edward came next, then another boy, I was at a loss for names at this time so we combined them into Charles Jonathan Edward, poor baby....we call him John, then we got our baby girl, Casey Ellen, and two more baby boys, Cory Elliott and Jacob Errin.
We didn't have the pleasure of knowing much of Matt and Cody, they both have different moms, one mom lives in the same town as we do, but she was (Is) a, well, what is a nice way to put this, Witch without the W and replaced with a big fat B! That is Matt's mom :) Cody's mom, well, she and Charles had lots and lots of marital problems. He will even tell you himself he was a SOB towards her. Luckily that was a time I didn't know him, and though my husband can still be a sort of ass at times, I know this and can handle him, I can see how some women couldn't do it though.
Anyway, after their divorce she took the baby and moved back to her home state of Alaska. We've struggled quite a bit in our daily financial life, so getting up there to see him often, or even at all, wasn't something we were able to do. Charles missed him like crazy, I did too. But his mom was incestant on keeping him away. If she ever did bring him to KY she never let us know. Her mom and sister still live here, so I'm sure she did bring him back a time or two.
When Matt turned 18 he came to live with Charles and I. He stayed about 6 months, then went back to Moms, came back to us, went with friends. Just a young man in a midst of turmoil. We lost him in November, 1998. The day we elected Bill Clinton to another term of presidency.
Our children grew, thrived, we had a few bouts of sickness, the most notable was when Joshua was diagnosed with B Cell Lymphoma. A type of cancer. He was 17. He is now 24 and happy, healthy and handsome! Thanks to good doctors, good medicine and above all a good God!
Our daughter had her first daughter when she was 17. A fact I did not handle well at all. BUT, when Cicilia was born I let go of the anger towards her, unfortunately I couldn't put the anger towards Cicilia's father aside, to be totally honest, I still can't stand the little SOB, but, I guess that's another story. Casey and I fought a lot still during those first 2 years. I should have understood better and done a whole lot of things differently, but the fact is, I didn't. Cicilia went to live with her dad right after her 2nd birthday. I'm not going to get into all of the details, but she is a happy, healthy, very loved little girl. While I still loathe the man who made her, I do respect the fact that he is doing what he can, along with his wife to give her a good childhood. And Casey is too. She's still in Cicilia's life and struggling everyday to bring her back home.
Casey has gone on to have another wonderful son and beautiful daughter. They all live with her fiance, their daddy. They are absolutely wonderful parents. They give those children everything and beyond. Love, patience, a stable environment.
Josh and John have been out on their own for awhile too. Josh and Dawn and John and Amber all share a home just a few miles from us. We get to see them usually once a week, sometimes more often, very rarely less than that.
Cory and Jacob still live at home. Making messes for mom to clean up. Bugging dad for something. ALL THE TIME. But, it doesn't get any better than this.
I'll keep up my blogging, you guys send me love. Let me know you're enjoying reading and I'll keep writing.
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